Kita’s Gentle Message

Are You Measuring Out your Love?

Posted by on March 13, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Are You Measuring Out your Love?

It’s easier to be kinder to strangers because you don’t know them. There’s no personal connection or history to pre-empt the flow of kindness from you to them. You may be donating, volunteering, sharing and giving of your time and energy to those in need without reservation but how are you in your generosity when it comes to your family? Sometimes past personal experiences build up a wall of self-protection, anger, shame, confusion and mistrust that prevents your flow of love to kin with whom you are supposedly the closest. You measure out...

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Where are your Mokoi and Gwyra?

Posted by on March 6, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Where are your Mokoi and Gwyra?

Journalist Stephanie Nolen reports that Brazil’s indigenous people (primarily adolescents) are taking their own lives at a rate 22 times that of their fellow citizens. Some attribute this “bad” death to the dislodgement of mokoi and gwyra – two small birds that normally perch on your shoulders as you travel through your life. Harsh words or witnessing a traumatic event can frighten them away, leaving you vulnerable to the angue – the evil spirits that can overtake you.  This is a visually simplistic way of explaining unfortunate occurrences....

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Discernment in Sharing Yourself

Posted by on February 27, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Discernment in Sharing Yourself

I’m sure you’ve heard this before that our lives are gifts to us to unwrap with love and care. Sometimes in the excitement of the moment when meeting someone new or wanting to land a desired job or perhaps even to impress an acquaintance, you may say more about yourself than that person wants to, cares to and needs to know. I would take this a step further and suggest that person may not understand what you are all about. In that lack of understanding you and your essence, they may subsequently speak and behave in such a manner as to...

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Relinquish that Control Button

Posted by on February 20, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Relinquish that Control Button

You’ve got everything figured out for the project and are confident that you haven’t missed an item. Priorities have been set; working colleagues have been informed of your plans; date and time for project delivery are confirmed. In walks the senior manager and has an idea that she wants to integrate into the existing action plan. For a moment you are stunned at the suggestion: too much, too late, too impractical – these thoughts run through your mind as you prepare a measured response to her.  Sound familiar? Do you feel your “baby” has been...

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See What You Have

Posted by on February 13, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on See What You Have

Your shoulder has been bothering you since you got up this morning. “I can’t believe it.  Why would this happen to me now when I’ve got so many things to do today,” you say to yourself.  There are a couple of ways to manage this train of thought: your body is merely telling you to slow down and you’re wise to heed its guidance; second, when you did wake up, were you in a warm bed? Did you have breakfast? Despite the shoulder’s soreness, could you still get into your heated car and head off to do a couple of errands anyway? Did your kids/your...

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Faith and Trust

Posted by on February 6, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Faith and Trust

A little boy was being put to bed by his nana. As she tucked him in, she shared this thought with him: “If you lie here and listen for the front door to open, you’ll know it’s Mommy and she’ll come right upstairs to cuddle with you. She should be here soon.” With that said, nana kissed her grandson good night and silently made her way downstairs. All was now quiet. Minutes later the front door opened; the young woman greeted nana and they exchanged a quick update before realizing her son was talking to himself upstairs. “I hear the front door...

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Find a Way

Posted by on January 23, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Find a Way

I’m leaving for a week-long trip to visit family and friends on the west coast in a couple of days. With work commitments, appointments, family needs and events that are scheduled this weekend, my 24-hour day is packed.  Being in the moment helps as I focus on the task at hand and do not let myself think ahead – otherwise I would feel overwhelmed.  I’m also writing this at six in the morning having risen earlier to accommodate today’s schedule.  I’m taking Mom to the national figure skating championship finals – a day-long affair.  A good way...

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Who Needs You Now?

Posted by on January 16, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Who Needs You Now?

No question – you’re being pulled in all directions: demands at work spilling over into your down time (whatever that is); a neighbour needing a hand with his move; the teacher calling for muffins at the school raffle; municipal meeting on the water bylaw coming up; Ray’s birthday on Saturday; gym morning with your girlfriend; looming tax deadline; “bangs falling in my eyes got to get to the hairdresser” time; and the paint chips are still lying on the dining room table waiting to be looked at. Whew! Got a minute for you? Talking and...

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Allow Yourself the Impossible

Posted by on January 9, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Allow Yourself the Impossible

How are you making out with the one kind thought challenge? And if this is a good reminder then it’s served the purpose. Besides making room for your kindness service, I encourage you to think about the impossible. What seems to be totally out of your reach right now? A well-paying career? A healthy relationship? A strong constitution? Travelling to Australia? Respect from your kids? A bigger place to live? You fill in the blank, remove the limitations that have been self-imposed and start imagining this “I wish I had” scenario. What you...

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Just One Thought Every Day

Posted by on January 2, 2017 in Gentle Messages | Comments Off on Just One Thought Every Day

Your thoughts are clustering intensely as you look to the New Year ahead.  “What do I have to look forward to?” “Am I going to make enough money this year?” “Will I finally lose those five pounds?” “I hope I can get to the gym more than I did.” There’s a lot on your mind as you get to start afresh in 2017.  Is it possible to fit just one more thought in your head? Just one more thought about someone else besides you? How about one thoughtful thought about someone else once a day for the 365 days of 2017? That’s my challenge to you whether you...

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