I want to; I have to

“Never have two small words held such power for you. “Want to” implies desire, a choosing to do of your own free will. “Have to” implies coercion, a forcing to do because of someone else’s free will. It boils down to decision making.  What kind of decisions are you making?  Are they based on others’ wishes, demands, expectations, and orders? Or are your decisions based on wishes and expectations that you make of yourself? Next time when you are...

Read More

Leaving Your Footprint

“Thoughts come and go.  Our mind processes thousands of them daily with many zipping by without our conscious attention.  Once in a while, one lodges itself within our waking realm and chooses to stay a while.  Some are wonderful; others are nasty.  Recently, a thought settled within me that gives me unexpected peace – the kind of thought that is long lasting, substantial and comforting. Luckily for me, this one belongs in the “wonderful”...

Read More

Bend It Like Beckham

“Though the movie “Bend It Like Beckham” deals with a young Indian girl whose traditional parents do not want her playing soccer, when the title popped in my head, I was thinking more along the lines of bending into changing circumstances especially innocent and innocuous ones – an unexpected request to help a neighbour, waiting longer for an appointment, doubling back because you’ve forgotten the milk, a sold-out movie you’ve been wanting to...

Read More

Ripe for an Identity Crisis

“Those of you who have studied long and hard at your career know a lot of things that other people don’t. Whether an expert in biology or finances, social media or kinesiology, your information is valued and to a certain extent what you know is who you are. Yes, your work defines you – in many cases admirably. However, be careful to ensure that others see the other parts of you, the ones that you hold close to your chest or even the ones that...

Read More

Not Everything has to Stick

We’ve been taught to watch for and take advantage of opportunities that show up in our lives. Whether a good buy, a new interesting friend, chance to get away, another job contract, investment offer – all these situations signal to us to explore them and see how they can help us out in a positive way.  Sometimes these events occur rarely sometimes in multiples.  When the latter happens, there’s an urge to grasp at everything lest we “lose out”....

Read More

The Love in Your Eyes

“It won’t be the brand new textbooks or latest app, Michael Jordan’s running shoes or McCourt’s hockey sweater, an all-inclusive week’s stay in the Bahamas, or front row seats on Broadway, a killer play list, shopping spree on Rodeo Drive, a 5-star dining experience in Paris, an Oscar awards after-party, or winning the lottery, – although these things are very nice, it will be the love in your eyes that will make the difference in someone’s...

Read More