It’s so Hard to be Good

The acts of violence around the world, the acts of unkindness close to home, and the mercurial disposition of our earth and weather make it so hard to be good these days.  The lack of certainty has prompted a “survival of the fittest” mentality where love, compassion, trust and patience have been elbowed out by the bullies of fear, anger, revenge and greed. This time of change and transition is pushing every button we possess, and I in my cloak...

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Knowing You have to Move On

Logically, you can create a number of reasons for maintaining the status quo. Your mind – by default in its survival mode – will willingly prevent you from leaving the familiar to enter the unknown even if the familiar is uncomfortable for you. Not knowing terrifies the mind more than an existing situation that is unhealthy for you. However, deep inside you a small voice grows ever stronger and more insistent that change needs to happen....

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What Motivates Other People…

What motivates other people may not be what is motivating you. This is a very clear and uncomplicated statement. Yet not taking this into consideration when accepting a job, making plans with a family member, deciding on a night out with your friends or even taking your dog for a walk can lead to disappointment, frustration and misunderstanding. What compels each of us to engage the way we do is unique to our personality, upbringing and belief...

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The Truth can be Comfortable

We’re constantly being told to be careful what we say – that saying what you really think leaves yourself wide open. The words “vulnerable” “under scrutiny” “irresponsible” “naïve” “crazy” have all been used to describe someone who has stated their truth.  Logic has convinced us that speaking truth is even dangerous. But if you were to say what you truly think how refreshing, liberating that would be.  To be yourself despite all to the...

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Are You Measuring Out your Love?

It’s easier to be kinder to strangers because you don’t know them. There’s no personal connection or history to pre-empt the flow of kindness from you to them. You may be donating, volunteering, sharing and giving of your time and energy to those in need without reservation but how are you in your generosity when it comes to your family? Sometimes past personal experiences build up a wall of self-protection, anger, shame, confusion and mistrust...

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Where are your Mokoi and Gwyra?

Journalist Stephanie Nolen reports that Brazil’s indigenous people (primarily adolescents) are taking their own lives at a rate 22 times that of their fellow citizens. Some attribute this “bad” death to the dislodgement of mokoi and gwyra – two small birds that normally perch on your shoulders as you travel through your life. Harsh words or witnessing a traumatic event can frighten them away, leaving you vulnerable to the angue – the evil...

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